Naturally, it got me thinking about frumpy. I have long been determined not to be a frumpy mommy, to put some effort into myself. I don't consider this selfish in the least - I believe it is being a good steward of what God gave me. Of course, there is a line and the line varies for different people. For me, if "taking care of myself" started to infringe on my marriage, my family or my budget, that would be a good indication that things are crossing into selfish territory! Otherwise, I have learned the hard way to have proper priorities - and "me" is right up there! Without a happy healthy me, it is sure hard to have a happy healthy marriage, family, job, friendships, and everything else. Put on YOUR oxygen mask first, they say. We women tend to put our kids first, our church roles first, our husbands first, and culture seems to glorify that; a motherly sacrifice. But IMHO, it may be a self-sacrifice but it isn't anything to brag about. I'm much more interested in how women balance their roles and responsibilities and still maintain proper priorities... and of course I'm interested in personal style!
I think frumpy is less about clothes and more about attitude. Some people wear sweats and a tee and look chic. Some people wear business casual and look uncomfortable. This much I know: it has nothing to do with size and nothing to do with budget, but time does play a role. For example, I have friends of all shapes and sizes that have found awesome pieces at VV Boutique, but you need time to look around and try on. Even if you can't find an item of clothing on every trip, you can often find finishing pieces like bags, scarves and accessories that make the outfit! Repeat after me: it is okay to take time to shop for yourself. This is necessary step in preparing yourself to fight the frump, and is exactly why What Not to Wear takes women away for a week! You need to invest some time in order for it to flow smoothly on an ordinary day.
Since it's my day off, I had time to
Can't quite believe I'm sharing this.
Hmmm, actually it isn't as bad as I thought it would be.
Here is how I fought the frump, using the same elements from the outfit above: comfy pants, comfy top, outer layer, comfy shoes:
Necklace was an extra awesome gift and earrings are from my closet
Fly Lady, you know the importance of "dressing to shoes" - for yourself, everyday. It makes a difference in how your approach your home and your life.
I have an organized closet so could easily pull what I wanted - this is part of the prep that is an investment for your everyday life! I figure, you either need a small wardrobe with quality pieces that you know will fit well and work together OR an ample wardrobe that allows some experimentation without being overwhelming and hard to navigate. Same goes for accessories, bags and shoes.
I didn't have anything special planned today. Other than the people I saw at school drop-off and pick-up, I didn't see anyone besides my kids, and my husband won't be home in time to see me in these clothes. Because I'll be in jammies!!! This is not a "special" dress and dresses by nature do not need to be reserved for special occasions. In fact, the more you incorporate them into your everyday wardrobe, the better Styles per Cost or cost per wear you will get. I found this look more comfortable than the stretch pants and tee which do nothing for my mid-section! There's some discussion in Sheila's comments about aprons; well, girls, I have been wearing aprons since before I had kids, when I had a giant slobbery dog to content with. Now, I slip one on as I prepare meals and pack lunches. No need to change into something
Thank you Sheila for inspiring such a great conversation amongst women! I look forward to reading more on the Fight the Frump series and seeing women reap the fruit in their real lives!